[KG]

i have a cousin who was fairly close to me, i lived with him and his family for a year, and have boated with them forever.

he was a younger kid -16, and decided life wasnt all that cracked up to be. he took his life by way of hanging last night and was found by my uncle.

the kid was a great kid, i havent seen him in about a year, but what changes in ayear??

i just dont get it. no matter what its not worth it.
now i have a couisin to lay down before the family functions start before the holidays

not a good way to start.

 

[Mitcher T]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. The holidays are a tough time for a lot of people, there is no explanation that will make sense or bring closure to your family's loss. Just take comfort in the family and friends around you knowing that you have a tremendous amount of support available. You'll be surprised at how much there is in places you would least suspect it.

 

[Speedwake]

the christmas season is the worst time for suicides..

what happens? - depression primarily, loss of hope.

I am very sorry to hear about it because I know first hand how it affects those who are left behind because someone very close to me took their life years ago.

there's a very profound saying and it goes like this:

when someone dies they leave a skeleton in their closet.
when somone takes their own life they leave a skeleton in yours.

- jeff
I'm very sorry.

 

[rogue2800]

Wow, so sorry. Thats very sad.

 

[Rattlesnake Jake]

SORRY

 

[OldMagicfloat]

Sun98,

That is tragic, I'm very sorry to hear about such a loss and extend our deepest sympathy and support to you and your family during this time of year.

 

[greeneyedbeacher]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I have a 16 year old son, and sometimes it hurts me to watch him dealing with the pressures of school, girlfriend, etc. I remember how hard it was going through puberty, so I'm always there for him when he needs to talk. Even though he doesn't believe that I understand, I hope someday he will.

It scares me that one dark instant when no one's around can lead to tragedy... my heart goes out to you and his family, and I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

 

[splinter]

VERY sorry to hear this. Our condolences to you and your family.

 

[trimman]

kEN ,i am very sorry that is traggic ,someone i know passed away recently it sucks! Rely on good friends , famiily and a little prayer to get you thru! The kids now i think have too much pressures mostly peer not that we didn't at there age my 11 year old for instance i'm starting to notice a little dpression in him it worrys me , it has to to w/ the other kids and cruelty .Our thoughts and prayers are w/ your family ken.

 

[KG]

thank you for your kind words

 

[mosi]

That's some scary stuff....

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

It does make you wonder how we can miss the signals of someone crying out for help. I too had someone close take their own life.

 

[SHIP4BRAINS]

I don't think beeing a teen is any fun anymore. Too many kids are under so much pressure..school, peers, parents....I can honestly say I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. I might go back to 17-18 years old but earlier than that, no way. Not in todays society.

It is sad, that so many kids have so much these days...many are spoiled rotten...these are the kids that often have nothing...at least not what they really need. Heck, I look back and I still am not sure what I really needed. Being in high school was one of the toughtest times of my life and I am probably lucky to have gotten through it. I am glad to see that my 11 year old son has his head on straight...much straighter than mine was when I was his age.

But I don't know...i think you could be the perfect parent and still have something like this happen. I knew a super sweet girl ( 16 years old ) that ended her life and she had the most awesome parents and sister. She was a good student....lots of friends...hard worker...she was good in sports...it just made no sense. And when you look at how she did it, it was even more confusing because there was no reason at all.

I think it is possible to miss the signs. I wish kids could be kids again...instead of being forced into adults when they are 13...

 

[Mopower]

Sun,

I go along with mikendkim...etc...etc in the previous post. I wouldn't want to do it over either.
No one knows what's going on in someone else mind .
Last year a 57 year old friend of mine almost lost it all. They were hearing voice from the TV and were convinced the FBI was after them and was being followed. This person has no reason to worry about any of that. Thank God they told some people this who forced them to get professional help before another tragedy occurred. Craziest part is...I've known them 35 years and you couldn't ask for a more well balanced , normal , outgoing person. I never would have believed it myself.
The mind can do stange things :unhappy1:
You and your family have my deepest sympathy.

Cal(mopower)

 

[obnoxus]

We are very sorry for your loss. People can hide much inside themselves without showing it on the outside.

It is a terrible tradgedy, especially at that age. There was nothing he could not have overcome being so young.

I hope you and your family stay strong and close during these trying times.

You and your family are in our prayers.

 

[Screamin' Scarab]

I too feel sorry for you, The problem with depression is it can come on suddenly. Like a freight train hitting you. And if it goes untreated, it only gets worse. To the point where someone doesn't feel like living anymore.Its scary stuff.The best thing you can do for yourself is talk about it with your friends and family.Also going online and learning about depression might help you understand it better but certainly won't help the pain your going through now.Hope you have a better New Year.

 

[KG]

again thank you for the kind words-its just out there to me...

i am only 24 and i also believe i made it through the toughest years already. we have a large family-this side was 8 bothers in sisters, then couisins etcc we all are fairly close too. this is the hard part of it all, he was a great kid, we played sports together, when ever we boated with the family he was always with one of us, his dad was in the coast guard, and he planned to be too. he was an almost all a student, and aparently after this year of school started it was all down hill. i wishi i would have known it was coming, nobody told me. after the boats were pulled for winter and shrinkwrap started and school so i really didnt see anyone, not even thankjsgiving, so i had no clue. i personally havent seen hinm in about a year, but everyone else seen him on a regular basis. i just had a lot of things going on this past year with moving in to my 1st house getting engaged and prepairing for the wedding on top of loosing a job starting another etc etc. i just cant believe things can change so fast.

its a terrible situation, but again thank you for the thoughts

 

[dominator scott]

Sunsation98,sorry about you and your families loss.
I have a daughter that will be 16 in 2 months and I can tell ya that the pressures they deal with at school are unreal. (Being accepted by your friends and classmates
and trying to make the right decisions at the same time.)
Lucky for me my daughter has a level head on her shoulders and is able to tell when some of her friends are going down the wrong road. She also knows that if she EVER needs to talk or a shoulder to lean on I am always there for her no matter what it is.

Just remember in situations like this family and friends
make it a little bit easier to cope so hang in there buddy. :winker:

 

[detideoneon]

So sorry to hear your story. This is a very depressing time of year for many people for a number of reasons. Suicide rate is the highest this time of year. It is one of those things no one will ever figure out why people do what they do. I have heard it from a number of people in your situation they say they never saw it coming.

 

[Kidnova]

Sunsation98,

Like some of the others mention, kids are under a lot of pressure. Especially now days. The way society is today, it seems to force kids in to adulthood too soon, way before they're equiped to handle it.

Very sorry to hear of yours and your family's loss. It's a horrible tragedy.

 

[sons288]

Ken, Sorry to hear about the loss of your couisin, our thoughts and prayers go out to the family.
I also have a son that just turned 17 and when you read of the pressures that these teenagers have to deal with in todays life style, I sat down with him today to make sure that he understands that the door is always open 24/7 and we can always work things out.